The importance of breaking the bias when talking about Eating Disorders

Dr Anna Scelzo, Psychologist–Psychotherapist

When we look up the meaning of the word stigma we read: “A mark of disgrace associated with particular circumstance, quality, or person”(Oxford Dictionary). And also: “A mark or spot on the skin.” Whatever we can find around the concept of stigma however, it is important to consider what it does, rather than what it means intellectually. As matter of fact stigma is related with feelings, images and thoughts that are strictly connected to hate, prejudice, shame, guilt, humiliation, discrimination … and pain. 

Stigma is the death of an opportunity, the one that allows people to share experiences, to deepen the knowledge of the human being in its whole and entire nature, in strength and 

vulnerability, in potential and limits, in hope and despair. And this happens not just for the people who are victimized by stigma, but also for those who contribute to its growth. 

We are talking about stigma that surrounds 

people who suffer from an eating disorder, those women, men, boys and girls who have developed symptoms of anorexia, bulimia or binge eating disorders. People who are trapped in the conflicting relationship with food and that struggle to see their own body as suitable for the required social standards. 

We know that people who suffer from an ED are very sensitive and have not chosen to develop such symptoms, they have not chosen to restrict or binge in order to be different or special or “crazy”. Those symptoms are in a way a language by which feelings of fear, low self- esteem, shame and guilt can be expressed. A place where to be when no other place feels safe. 

When we understand more deeply what an eating disorder is, a whole world of meanings can open up. Meanings that are not found in dictionary or books, but by talking with each other, by listening the story behind a fearful gaze and a bone-skinned body. Often I listen while my patients describe the experience of going to the beach and hearing someone at their back, whispering: “Do you want to see what an anorectic looks like?” 

Here in Italy, where I live and work as psychotherapist, we are only now starting to talk more openly about eating disorders and still many people feel that this is something that does not relate to them. Even politics does not seem to be really interested, maybe because there is not much money to make out of it. An eating disorder is not the kind of illness that requires a pharmaceutical therapy, therefore is not appealing for big pharmaceutical companies.

They say that the number of people suffering from eating disorders does not justify the opening of specialized day centers or wards. Yet people are dying from eating disorders. People do not have a life because of an eating disorder. 

So many young girls and boys are the victims of a system that is underestimating the 

consequences of an eating disorder and leaves patients and families wit lack of resources. This is why it is important to talk about eating disorders, to raise awareness about it, to give 

correct information and above all to 

communicate people at all levels that recovery is possible no matter how old the person is. 

It is important to let people know that our attention as therapists and as associations supporting family wit ED is high and we will keep on our work of advocacy!